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kane_magus) wrote2011-07-19 02:40 pm
kane_magus) wrote2011-07-19 02:40 pm
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"5 Reasons We Need Classes on How to Talk to People"
For an article on Cracked, this wasn't very funny at all (even in the usual "here is some horrible news that we're going to make jokes about" sense), but still somewhat interesting.
I am self-aware enough to know that I absolutely suck when it comes to people skills, at least as far as face-to-face stuff goes. I may be fairly (or perhaps, at times, overly) verbose online,* but if I am dealing with someone IRL, unless I've known them for a while, I usually tend to completely clam up, only giving terse answers to direct questions (if even that much). If it's a professional situation where I know I need to at least seem like I have more interpersonal skills than a rock, I might be able to half-ass it for a little while, with extreme conscious effort, but it's very draining, and probably not very effective.
* - At least on blogs and such, anyway. Even online, I tend to avoid posting to very active fast-moving forums or hanging around in chats with more than maybe two or three people, or if I do I just lurk. Means of communication where the reply isn't expected to be instantaneous and I can think about what I want to say, I have no real problem with. Means of communication that are occurring in real time, however, be that an Internet chat, a telephone call, a face-to-face conversation with someone or whatever... I'm not nearly so good with those, particularly if I'm talking to someone I don't know well or at all.
I am self-aware enough to know that I absolutely suck when it comes to people skills, at least as far as face-to-face stuff goes. I may be fairly (or perhaps, at times, overly) verbose online,* but if I am dealing with someone IRL, unless I've known them for a while, I usually tend to completely clam up, only giving terse answers to direct questions (if even that much). If it's a professional situation where I know I need to at least seem like I have more interpersonal skills than a rock, I might be able to half-ass it for a little while, with extreme conscious effort, but it's very draining, and probably not very effective.
* - At least on blogs and such, anyway. Even online, I tend to avoid posting to very active fast-moving forums or hanging around in chats with more than maybe two or three people, or if I do I just lurk. Means of communication where the reply isn't expected to be instantaneous and I can think about what I want to say, I have no real problem with. Means of communication that are occurring in real time, however, be that an Internet chat, a telephone call, a face-to-face conversation with someone or whatever... I'm not nearly so good with those, particularly if I'm talking to someone I don't know well or at all.